Happiest day on Earth.....

Nah,certainly not today!!!we the residents of Nigeria aren't very happy @ the moment.I am unableto sleep @ d moment,i just keep looking @ my son and can't stop kissin him over and over again.

The day i had my son is the happiest day of my life,i know for a lotta people,it's d day they get married but in all sincerity,my wedding day wasn't the happiest day of my life.I mean i was happy to be getting married but maybe cos of the whole circumstance(losing my dad and all),it just doesn't stand out as an extremely happy day.I guess i'll be saving all the dancing steps i planned for that day @ my children's wedding..

Another really happy day in my life was when i confirmed i had finished UNI,i studied a male dominated course and i felt like giving up so many times but my mum kept encouraging me,i am pretty sure i finished happier than the person that finished with a 1st class sef

On a random note,There's so much deceit in the world i more than appreciate God's patience now.Someone just explained the relationship between amaka/angela and reginald/sunam in TINSEL to me and i imagine that happpening in real life...God is really merciful

I adapt so easily to situations around me i wonder if i have the gift or that's how it is for everyone anyway.Life is so fickle i wonder why we stress so much to achieve some goals....

ps-i slept off while typing,Aluta continua...#occupy nigeria

Let's try this again:-)

I am guessing only madam sting,myne€€ and doll will understand my title...lol

Happy new year everyone,i wish y'all a year filled with fabulousity.Mine didn't start the way i had planned but i bless God all the same.I'd rather start the year on a shaky note than not start the year at all right?

The only new year resolution i have is to finish the bible,God help me as i do so,i have a "you version" plan on my phone but ever since i did one unneccessary upgrade,it's no longer been fun.please share any mobile application you know will help me achieve this and in reasonable time

i am beginning to feel the need to join the marriage counsellin department in church so i can share ideas about marriage..lol.i am sure y'all are laughin with me,after 2years,i dey get mouth...am not serious don't mind me

I'd like to use this opportunity to congratulate doll again on her upcoming wedding,i wish you my darling a very fantastic marriage with all your heart desires coming through.May your marriage live up to your expectations and more,May your marriage bring you all the great things of life you have wished for,you'll be the best wife to your hubby and d bestest mum to your kids.I know GEJ might have doubled the cost of food et al for the day but it's going to be a fantastic day still,this is your year!!!

where's florida again?abeg give us gist of how Code has been "dealing" with you people now that he's a big boy.lol

I miss you jare and i wanted you to know you are one of d few people i find it easiest to open up too cos am pretty sure u won't be judgemental and you analyse intelligently

I like writing so y'all can be sure that even if i am not here as often or i am not as prolific(dat na correct english) as myne,i like it here and i appreciate you all

Let's do this 2012.........Cheers

I miss bloggin....

hi y'all,

how have u been?i actually miss blogging a lot...i am trying it out now with my phone&if it works out well,i might just start to blog some more

i am inspired to write 5 good&5 bad things about me

1) i am confrontational

2)i am not diplomatic enuf wit the inlaws

3)my motivation to work is d salary&not passion for d job

4)i get pissed off easily

5)i am always in a hurry

6)i hate my space been invaded

1)i love&fear my father in heaven

2)i have an open mind&always listen

3)i adapt easily to situations

4)i am very resourceful

5)i don't take d gift of my son lightly

6)i think&learn fast

ps-i was gisting hubby of how linda ikeji makes over 500k from blogging&he said "am sure u have tried blogging before but u stopped cos u weren't making money"

and i quietely said nothing

Here we are........

Hello y'all,
Okaaaaay,here we are!!!!i don't even know what to write.how have y'all been?i see there has been so many positive changes,engagments,weddings,births,awards...congratulations to y'all.more power to ur elbow.
I have been very well thank God and so is my darling son and the hubby.The son now crawls and scatters the house while smiling and thinking that's d way of life,i was looking forward to that but av had enough of it already,thank you.

Maybe i havn't been able to come here to write cos i dont have anything to rant a lot for,the "crowd" still come once in a while but the number of days they stay has reduced and d number of people that come has certainly improved,we are surely progressing in that area

I took the 3months injection depo-provera as birth control and its not even funny at all.my period goes on for daysssssssssssssssssss and its jus so frustrating so i don't think i'll be taking the next dose abeg.please can anyone introduce a better birth control pelase?

My opinion of marriage as i type today is that it gets better with days/time......it was really difficult to have an argument with the hubby and not sulk before but now i dont even waste my time,i halla if i have to and d next second,i have moved on to discuss other things,i dont find myself sucking for days w/out talking to him again and we seem to understand our direction more now cos even when he's upset at something i did ,he states it and clearly moves on as well

There's always room for improvement but i certainly confess that the improvement has been a lot.

I don't know if it has to do with our son or d fact that we have learnt from d past but i thank d lord either ways..

Y'all take good care of u and have a nice weekend


Yaaaay,i finally updated!!!!!!!!!!!

Long overdue mummy post.......

Happy new year blogsville!!!!!
I am a mummy now and i tell you it's worth all d "sickness",not like i pray to ever go through a horrific pregnancy again but this experience clearly makes me understand how God could have felt the need to send his son to "die" for his children.
I love my son so much it hurts,thank God for musings,he sent me an article about when a kid comes into the picture so it's helping me curb some things

My son is sooo adorable and i love him to bits.i had an 8lbs 12oz baby,don't ask me how considering my health throughout the belle,he came out looking confused,the very 1st picture of my baby i have in my head is "where am i",his apga score was 9/10,he was a rather long baby too,(my hubby is big)
my birth experience was "wonderful",i went through pain for just about 3hours,just about an hour of unbearable pain and that was when i transported myself to the hospital,got testd to be sure i was in labour(dont know what the nurses were thinking),got tested for epidural and taking the epidural...y'all know how it is,there was no more pain,i spent the remaining time of labour(almost a day) been hurt my baby daddy wasn't there to witness it& arguing with him over the phone,i really really really really wanted him to see this cos i felt it will make him respect me a whole lot more but he did all he could to avoid it.What's worse?he's not apologetic,he says he's told me since the day he met me(true that) he'll never witness a childbirth,i thought he'll change and all that but guess that was in my dreams.

I pushed for over an hour and just when the nurses were just about giving up and intervening,i begged for one last try and my darling son came out then i started to WEEP and shiver,i wipe tears off my eyes now as i remember.
God in heaven,i use myself as a point of contact to every single person out there desiring a child,please answer their prayers very very very soon.
It's the type of joy everyone that deisres it should experience.So my sweetie has been growing steadily,i am baby friendly so as "tush" as i am,i bring out my breast in hospital/anywhere to nurse my baby oh,i couldn't care less man
he's a quiet one,very peaceful,he doesnt cry unneccessarily,i actually find his crying sexy,he cries when he's wet,hungry or wants to sleep..i havn't been able to train him to sleep all night,he's over 2months old and he still wakes up in the middle of the night,he has peed right in my face before and i just laughed it off,he has poo-poo(ed) on me b4 and it was okay....the first time his diaper leaked and i promptly went to wash his body suit,my hubby was so disgusted,he wantd me to put it in d washer,am like abeg oh,u know how many people wanna wash baby's clothes,am not complaining at all at all...i shall tell him the story when he starts telling me "hi mum" in future.

All in all,i am happy,my hubby is happy,he's desperate for the boy to look like him cos he's always telling everyone the boy loks like him......am like let the boy choose himself nooow

we ave now gotten to the stage where we are looking for a nanny,my hubby asked if he should install a camera in our sittng room and am like cool down now...na you go first born pikin for lagos,there's someone i have interviewed and seems okay but my hubby collected her address and wants to go and investigate about her in her area first..i think that's absolutely ridiculous but the girl looks okay,i hope she's a good one,she comes highly recommended from a friend
I am resuming work soon and not looking forward to it at all but what can i do??i have to go oh so i can have enough cashogi to send my son to the best of the best

Meanwhile,for any aspiring mums,asides the fact that breastfeeding immunes your child,it's the best choice u can make for your child,it's so cheap and convenient,i already bought my formular in bulk if not i wont have bought formular at all cos by the time he starts to take cereal,he doesnt need so much milk anymore
Anyway,guess it's an experience for me.i have 300 pictures of my baby and No,i havn't started yet,he smiles already so picture taking is so much fun,i wanna do a fotoshoot but i want him to grow a bit older so we can frame the picture and put at home.something really scary happened today,i put him to sleep on his play pen and i dozed off for 30mins,i woke up and found a lot of red rashes on one side of his face..if that had happened with just a nanny,i would have panicked so bad man..guess it was from d heat though cos there was no light.
i cried at the 1st immunization i witnessed but i am a pro now,i even hold him for the nurses and my hand doesnt shake..BCG is soo evil though:-)

meanwhile,Our daddy wants to have sex again cos its been 4months and seriously that's my BIGGEST CHALLENGE in life right now,i have been pushing it with excuses of birth control but i am too exhausted,as IGNORANT & STUPID,FOOLOSH & DAFT as this may sound but it almost feels like he can do whatever he wants outside as long as i never find out in my lifetime,he's beginning to get frustrated and i guess i have to do something about it soon but i am tired i tell u,i am really tired.
i try to make his best dishes and have it ready steaming hot sef but it's not working.I had a major tear& a suture and even guilt tripped him the 1st time that it's cos he wasn't there he's not feeling sorry for him.
The truth is i am psychologically unready,i am scared,i put the baby to sleep in between us for this purpose..i am not been a good wife at the moment but i can't help myself.......Oh well,God help me!

so that's its folks and happy new year once again..My new year resolution is to be the best mum i can be to my prince

NB - would you like to see the picture of his thighs??lol

Happy Wedding Anniversary to moi.....

I have been typing this post over a period of 3months and i made up my mind i had to post this year or discard.

Happy wedding anniversary to me,it's been one dramatic year,ups and downs,fantastic times and sad times.I went into marriage knowing for sure it's not a bed of roses,expected to have challenges but i got dealt blows i didn't comprehend oh

At a point,i told my husband we went into marriage with different expectations,we dont see marriage the same way is why we have soo many issues. i tried to itemize my biggest challenges as follows hoping someone out there can learn from it.i dont think marriage neccessarily makes anyone happier,if u were unhappy as a single person,marriage wont cure u of that.I am happy to be married but i wasn't sad when i was single as well...

Talking to multiple people - Till date,i find this the biggest challenge of my marriage.we argue and my hubby tells like 10 of his friends,this is something i NEVER noticed if he used to do when we were dating,i noticed he was telling a particular stupid girl that claims to be married and i was raising fire and brimstone then i realized(he told me) he actually told his male friends as well.....i have tried to talk him out of it and he doesnt think there's a biggie,he agrees its not right but says his friends talk about stuff all the time so its not life threatening....am still prayerfully and physically tackling this....he claims he's jus asking their opinion to know if he did something so wrong cos of the way i react,i find it UNBELEIEVABLE!!!

Closeness - I also think we are closer friends,we have been friends for soo long but living together has made us much more closer pals and of course lovers.he tells me before doing a lotta things even when he knows i'll disagree.top on this list is forex trading.av even asked him to stop telling me but he still does.lol

doubts - There are some times we fight and truthfuly i start to doubt the marriage,i am so worn out and i jus wonder why people get married.there are times i wish i could just leave d house for him and go and rest somewhere abeg..it is well

Differences - Living together has also made me realize we have some major differences that seem not a big deal but it is.I hate lights on when i wanna sleep,my hubby can't stay anywhere dark so i av to wait for him to sleep..i HATE d TV/noise in d bedroom..my hubby thinks its weird he wont have a TV in his room,he says his parents deprived him soo mch of Tv,his wife cant do same and he wont allow me do same to his kids....i just wonder.the flashing lights and noise drive me nuts but this is sumtin i have to live with,i have contemplated stayin in separate rooms but they seriously warned against this in counselling so i just suffer..maybe we'll finally have separate rooms when d baby arrives sha

phone - there's something my hubby does dat pisses me off to bits.when am talking to him on the phone,he tells me a call is comin in and he cuts d fone to talk to the person but wen am callin and he's on d fone,he never cuts d fone to pick my call instead he finishes d call and calls me back,i hate that a lot....when we were dating,the reverse was d case.he would at least pick my call,tell me who he's talking to and tell me he'll call me back if its soooooo important.less than one year and him don dey see me finish!!!

Religion - Our religious life isn't as serious as i wish it would be and that's partly my fault,i am jus very lazy and i dont want my kid born into this kinda life.i wish one of us would just pull the other up,i wish my kids would love God,be saved at an early age and just generally be on the rightest path right from the very beginning,there's still time to right this wrong

feeding-Initially,wen we got married.cooking use to shack me cut then i got preggy and didnt care so much,i am not much of an eater myself.
before ,if my hubby says he's not eating..na fight,will make sure he eats but now wen he says he's not eating,i say "thank God",promptly put off my kitchen lights and go off to bed.i know its a terrible habit but i also know my hubby isnt much of an eater,everyone eats at work anyway and i NEVER eat at night too so whatever

Last but not the least is that joining his family has been the biggest thing for me to accept.till now,i dont feel like am part of his family.i feel like i and my husband are our own family,i feel like he still has his family and i still have mine cos there are some decisions his parents/siblings make and some mine make as well that clearly shows that we are 2 different famlies from 2 different backgrounds.
Of course with his whole family crowding our home and them not seeing any biggie in it,i clearly didn't think we were one cos my own family just kept wondern what kinda human beings they were...lol

I really wish it gets easier this new year sha,i expect our marriage to have started stabilising after the 2nd year.........when there'll be a baby and we are still on course!!!All d very best to us

HAPPY HOLIDAYS Y'ALL

Third Trimester ......Keeping it together

Hello people,thanks for all the love and encouragement.

Guess i am feeling better now,just tired a lot,and feel round and clumsy and to think the final days aren't exactly here yet.....i actually just outright stopped talking to everyone in the house,i answer when they greet me and stay in my room all day long,i stopped talking to hubby altogether as in "dont even greet me kinda fight"....He sha came around to talk it over wth me,the tools arrived and they seem to be working fine,it still doesn't change the fact that i think it was a risk not worth taking in the first place...he apologised though for just making life more dramatic than it should be,for those of you that got it twisted,i meant we became +7 in the house for about 3weeks and we are usually 5 (including i and the hubby) on a good day so do the real maths....lol.What baffles me is the fact that i am a 1st child and he's a last child so one will expect i am the one always having all sorts of younger ones coming to stay ...he apologised and the conversation went in the direction of really and truly he won't overcrowd anyone like this and he is surprised his people are doing it,he respects everyone a lot and he feels if they ask him to come and he says no,it'll all come back to me,most importantly,i am in a very sensitive stage right nw,he doesnt want anyone harbouring any evil thoughts against me,that's why he isn't taking drastic action,if after the baby,they still don't know to move then he'll have no other choice than to ask them for space....he also accused me of referring to the issue weekly(i wasn't aware of that),he said i sieze every opportunity to just make a nasty comment....like for instance,i know my hubby for a fact likes opening the fridge and been able to take juice anytime but i started keeping all my groceries in the room,hubby gave some funny excuse and took them all out,of course when the juice finished earlier than expected and he asked what happened??am like how is there suppose to be??the rate at which we buy even drinking water sef is alarming and because i am always drinking water this days,i always have bottled water in my bag so i don't care if the water at home has finished or not,he was thirsty in the middle of the night and there was no water and i think he bought the last one himself,i sha commented that i couldnt have finished a whole dispenser of water by myelf now abi.........once again sha,we have agreed on by the time baby comes,they'd have gone........i really and truly hope so..the only fear i have is that the house might be full with the people that are coming to "help" then so i might be tongue tied again if they are still around....i am yet to be nasty or anything cos someone once advised me that PR in front of in-laws is important but i have given them the baby's birthday as deadline,then our wedding will be over a year and i will wear my "miss nasty" jacket on,they like or not,they will get this message

PS - I am starting to do my shopping but i dont have the heart to leave it in the sitting room,it just looked so unfeeling to my baby,sad and lonely,i didn't like the way it looked sha so i have created space in my own wardrobe for my baby abeg

PPS-so i begged my sis to come and do some cleaning of me and one the housemates was mad rude to her and giving her attitude,if i talk now,they will say i like to talk weekly..let's see how long i can keep quiet for...I don't like it when i and hubby have serious fights over his people,out of all d challenges of marriage i ever prepared mentally for,this isn't one of them and i dont think i handle things quite well when i am caught unawares
Hmmmmmm,it is well sha, God dey.........