Qmoney's word for today
There comes a point in your life when you realize:
Who matters,Who never did,Who won't anymore..........And who always will..
Don't worry about people from your past,there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future......
How are you all today??I have been about the most prayerful person i know in recent weeks
I want you all to join me in thanking God for my father,please help me thank baba God for keeping him alive up till this point.He has been ill and i have been having a difficult time,i was initially scared we might postpone the wedding cos his illness has been quite serious,i have just told a very few people,not been able to talk about it openly,he had a growth that we feared was cancerous and he needed surgery,he was really scared and all of that,he was scared he wasn't fit amongst other fears...............they have done the surgery and it was a success,he's now in ICU,he is been a very very stubborn and heady patient,trying to remove his oxygen mask to prove he is strong and he turns around gasping for breath,someone was there thankfully, health workers have gone on strike........*sigh*I just thank God for his faithfulness in the midst of all this.
My mum hasn't done a thing towards d wedding cos she has been busy taking care of her husband,as much as i complained bitterly when she was preparing for intro,i miss her stress now,i'd rather have her stressing over what to wear and what not to wear than have her sleeping on the floor in the hospital overnight,getting bitten by mosquitoes and what have you..................please pray for him,me and my family in general
Meanwhile,Beau chose this period to get lost in work and forgot to call me on the day of the surgery+ the day after to ask after my dad and even how i am coping,i took out all my anger and frustration in me on him including telling him to f%$#^&* go to blazes!!!!
He now just calls my mum(not me) daily to check on him/her...........God knows if we hadn't done intro i'd have told him "it's over"!!!
I confess one of my weaknesses in this relationship was always to break up in the face of anything i think Unforgivable.
I am soooo upset, i am now worried about getting married,it just scares me i can start feeling trapped or something.I mean why would i want to spend the rest of my life with someone that can be that non-challant in this trying period????or am i over-reacting?maybe i am jus pmsing at the moment or whatever.........
have a nice weekend y'all
Friday, July 10, 2009
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
5 Mistakes Women Make - By Ekene Agabu (Conclusion)
Qmoney's word for today
Ladies and Gentlemen..listen wen i say this,if you really want to find the 'one' you need to let go of the 'zeros'
This series was suppose to be in 3 parts but i have posted in 2 since a lotta people have seen it already.please read to then end of you haven't
Your Personal Standards! Don't leave home without them!
By not setting your standard, you’ve just set the standard. The standards I speak of are not standards for the relationship; I speak of your personal standards irrespective of the relationship. What is your life’s moral compass? This could get a bit confusing, so let me explain. Often times, at a certain point in life, people turn to religion for some sort of moral guidance or law. It’s an acknowledgment of some sort that they have made numerous personal mistakes and are in probable search for a turn around. So you might have a young lady who’s been around the block and has now become a Christian, and professes that she will be celibate until she gets married thereby claiming this new belief to be her standard. This is a religious belief that she has now adopted and not a personal standard. Your personal standards are born and realized from
within you and become your principles rather than a law. A principle is born out of understanding; an understanding of who you are and why you are here on this earth. If you are roaming the earth like a lost sheep in search of a man to give you relevance, you will always find yourself jumping from relationship to relationship with each one leaving you even more confused than you were in the beginning. But when you understand that you are not here by chance and your presence on this earth has significant relevance, the aura about you changes and the people and things you accept into your life will only be a reflection of your internal essence or your personal standard. A man can cause you to go against a belief because it was never yours in the first place, but he can never sway you away from your principle because you are one with your principle. A lady who lives from her principles takes personal responsibility for her own actions and responses. She takes charge and never leaves her fate to the opinions or actions of men. She doesn’t go on a date with every man that asks her out because she doesn’t need a man – she would want a man but she fully well understands that her worth is solely appraised on who she is
and not who she’s with. She would not change her principle to have or keep a man. She’s doesn’t need to sleep with a man to have or keep him. She understands that whatever she can’t get by way of her principles will never be her own. That you are sleeping with a guy does not mean he’s yours. If you had to sleep with him to keep him, he was never yours in the first place. In the absence of your personal standards, you end up trying many things and many people, but you never experience the love that is already within you. Allow that love within to write your standards and begin to live from them. That love will never lead you astray, never ever!
Why are you making excuses for him…..again?
I have come to observe that ladies often see the man as the prize. So once it looks like they have him – especially if he appears to be a good one – they want to do everything in their power to keep him. I understand that, but I don’t accept that and neither should you. You are the Prize. We should fight over you and want to do things to get and keep you. We should want to make sure you are ok. A man who loves and respects a woman will never want her in doubt when it comes her knowing of his feelings towards her. When we are crazy about a woman, we are no longer the reserved and non emotional creatures you think we are. We become a mess - drooling internally when we think of you. We would never want you to feel you are on shaky ground concerning your status with us. We will publicly profess and show you to the whole world. We will put up a picture with you in it as the our profile pic, tag you in all photos you appear in and most importantly make sure that our status box shows that we are in a relationship with you. Yup, that’s what we do when we love you - we say it out LOUD! And when we are out and
about with you, our professions are usually crystal clear: ‘Meet my girlfriend, Sandra’ or ‘Meet my fiance, Sandra.’ Not, ‘Meet Sandra’ who is Sandra??? When we love you, we want the world to know that we love you. But I get amazed when ladies see the writing on the wall and continually make excuses to justify a man’s blatant abuse towards them. What do I mean? Take for instance the introductions highlighted above; He introduces you as just ‘Sandra’: you know you don’t like it, but you make an excuse within yourself and say, ‘he’s a private kinda guy, he doesn’t like to publicly show stuff.’ Really? Ok, let me ask,
“Are you enrolled in midnight gymnastics with him?” In other words has he bent your body in ways you didn’t think possible? Well, there is only one thing worse than a guy sleeping with a woman in secret; and that is, a woman allowing that to happen.Before you allow a man do to you privately what can affect you publicly, he must first of all acknowledge you publicly as the
woman he respects and loves. If he can’t do that, you need to tell me why you are still sticking around. How can you allow a man to knock you up when you are just ‘Sandra’ to him? You know you deserve better, so stop the excuses. Instead of making excuses for him, take charge – not of him or the relationship, but of yourself. Never remain in an environment where your integrity is compromised. Remember, you are the prize and we should work hard to get and keep you. And after all our hard work, you still have a right to say NO.
Why are you looking for ‘something’ in a bag of ‘nothings?’
A few years ago, a friend who was engaged was getting ready for her wedding which was just a couple of months away at the time. She called me occasionally during the preparation process, but on this one phone call, things were pretty bad. She was mad, upset, disappointed and unhappy that she was marrying this guy. So I asked her why she was still going on with the
wedding if she felt the marriage wouldn’t work out. She said to me that she did not want the last four years of her life spent with him to go to waste. Hmmm! When she said this, I looked at my phone because I couldn’t look at her (she was in a different city) and in that instant – if I had a private jet – I would have flown to her city to give her a knock on her head - not a hard one, just a gentle knock - to help tilt her brain back to the center of her skull, because obviously it seemed
out of balance with what she had just said to me. Let’s think about this, You are willing to screw up the next 50 years of your life, create babies in a hostile environment with a man you despise thereby screwing up the next generation, raising kids that would need therapy for the rest of their lives based on the abuse they will experience in that home, all because you don’t want the last four years of your life - 1,2,3,4 - to mean nothing (I’m having a headache just rehashing the story).
So you are trying to create a love marriage from a four year crappy relationship. Needless to say, this lady was a young beautiful 28yr old lawyer. With good life habits she could easily live another healthy 50 years (Have you seen Barbara Walters lately? She’s 80). And here you are, willing to mortgage a future on four years with this jerk? She was desperately trying to make something out of nothing. That you’ve been in a long term relationship does not mean you should continually stay in it. Unfortunately for some ladies, it takes a while to see the light and muster up courage to get out of a bad situation. But when you see the light; RUN, GO, your life deserves it. If you don’t make that change, you’ll never know what’s out there? And when I say out there, I don’t mean what’s out there in another relationship; I mean what’s out there in you that you are yet to discover. Some of you ladies are afraid – afraid that you might not be married by a certain time. You begin the calculations, ‘Ok, I’m 28 now, if I break this up, how long will it take to find another guy and get married? Oooh! It may take another 4 years and I’ll be 32. No! I can’t be single at 30.” You are killing yourself with this kind of dialogue. Like she later said to me, she always saw herself married by 29. Needless to say, she was divorced by 29. They got
married alright, but their divorce was made final before a possible 1st wedding anniversary. Sometimes we allow fear to dictate what we should do. We will never get from fear what love has to give. Love is bold, confident and fearless. Why are you scared? Why are you letting fear keep you in a relationship that you know you don’t want? Why do you want to marry a guy who has already made you feel like trash? Why are you choosing to be with someone you are not crazy about? Ok, so you are more concerned about looking good and successful on the outside at the expense of how you truly feel on the inside. You are too special for that. Let people think what they think, you know what you know and that’s all that should matter. Sometimes, we don’t believe; we don’t believe in ourselves, so we settle and then try to make something out of nothing. You can’t change another human being, it’s impossible. You haven’t even changed some things about yourself; how then do you think it possible to change another?
You’ve gotta think before you have his baby!
Often times when I’m in conversation with one of my numerous lady friends, something always cracks me up. I know they been having sex for years in and out of relationships and that fact is not hidden between us. But on some occasions, when I ask them if they have been pregnant before, their voice takes on a new tone of ‘How dare you?’ And then there is a resounding NO,
like, ‘how could I get pregnant?’ Wait a minute! Am I missing something here? If you are having sex – sexual intercourse, you are potentially making a baby. You are filing an application. As soon as he ejaculates into you, the application is submitted and the outcome of that process is no longer left to you or him but to the Department of Conception. And if they approve it, you become pregnant whether you want it or not. Sex is not just about the pleasure derived, neither is it an antidote for loneliness. Sex is Responsibility; meaning you will have to respond to the outcome of that sexual encounter and sometimes it could be a lifetime of responses especially when a child is conceived. And when that child is born, you will forever have a symbol representing your union with your ex. Once a child is conceived, there is no moving on from that relationship. It begins the strongest bond known between a man and a woman. That man holds a special place in your heart regardless of how you feel about him today. You may have an abortion in trying to cut any future ties to this man, but may I have you know that the power of conception outweighs the power of birth. For something to be born, it has to be conceived. We are all on this earth first because of conception then birth. Without conception they will be no birth but without birth there can be conception. A strong bond is created when you allow a man’s sperm to start life within you. It is a major privilege to give to someone and not everyone should have that kind of access to you. If a man is horny and wants to be relieved, tell him to use his hand.
You are no object and certainly no substitute for a man’s hand. So if you don’t want to have his baby, don’t make his baby.
I know there’s Pressure, but why are you under it?
I have come to observe that whether she’s 21 or 29, she always feels she’s running out of time. One thing you must understand is that pressure is not real. You are real and when you give attention to or come under the dominance of something that is impotent, you give it potency – you give it power. That is why this thing we call ‘pressure’ has the effect it has. You give
it the effect. You are the effect. Sometimes we are driven by those voices of ignorance that may have come from people we love, so we try hard to get into a relationship and make it work. “Oh! This one has to work cos I’m almost 30.” Screw him and screw 30. You are more valuable to yourself and to the world than the timeline of your eggs or your age. Your world will not
come to an end if you are not married by 30; in fact, it may just be beginning!
A few years ago, a lady friend of mine, who was 21 at the time called me up to talk about her ‘man' troubles. During our conversation, I observed that she had always been in a sexual relationship since she was 15. She confessed to me that she didn’t want to be alone; actually she didn’t know how to be alone. You see, you do yourself a huge injustice when you spend your formative years interrupted. Sex interrupts. It stops your creative and intellectual development and gives strength to your emotional cravings which should still be asleep. Your formative years are years you spend forming your person and your identity in readiness for your service to the world. Unfortunately, ladies give that time and space to some guy – a guy who may not even be in your life past your 30th birthday.Have we as men failed you? Oh yes we have! As fathers some of us weren’t present in your young life. As uncles, instead of being fond of you, we fondled you. As friends we were more focused on the benefits instead of the sacrifice. We used you when
we should have added value. We took advantage instead giving the advantage. We failed you quite all right, but you don’t have to do to yourself what we did to you – You don’t have to fail yourself. You can’t afford to fail yourself. You are the door to humanity. Life has to go through you to enter this earth. Even God needed a woman to come back into the world.
There’s no need to dumb yourself down or compromise your true integrity. We need the true you. We can’t exist without you and
we will adjust to whatever standard you set for us – so why not make it high, why not make it YOU?
Ladies and Gentlemen..listen wen i say this,if you really want to find the 'one' you need to let go of the 'zeros'
This series was suppose to be in 3 parts but i have posted in 2 since a lotta people have seen it already.please read to then end of you haven't
Your Personal Standards! Don't leave home without them!
By not setting your standard, you’ve just set the standard. The standards I speak of are not standards for the relationship; I speak of your personal standards irrespective of the relationship. What is your life’s moral compass? This could get a bit confusing, so let me explain. Often times, at a certain point in life, people turn to religion for some sort of moral guidance or law. It’s an acknowledgment of some sort that they have made numerous personal mistakes and are in probable search for a turn around. So you might have a young lady who’s been around the block and has now become a Christian, and professes that she will be celibate until she gets married thereby claiming this new belief to be her standard. This is a religious belief that she has now adopted and not a personal standard. Your personal standards are born and realized from
within you and become your principles rather than a law. A principle is born out of understanding; an understanding of who you are and why you are here on this earth. If you are roaming the earth like a lost sheep in search of a man to give you relevance, you will always find yourself jumping from relationship to relationship with each one leaving you even more confused than you were in the beginning. But when you understand that you are not here by chance and your presence on this earth has significant relevance, the aura about you changes and the people and things you accept into your life will only be a reflection of your internal essence or your personal standard. A man can cause you to go against a belief because it was never yours in the first place, but he can never sway you away from your principle because you are one with your principle. A lady who lives from her principles takes personal responsibility for her own actions and responses. She takes charge and never leaves her fate to the opinions or actions of men. She doesn’t go on a date with every man that asks her out because she doesn’t need a man – she would want a man but she fully well understands that her worth is solely appraised on who she is
and not who she’s with. She would not change her principle to have or keep a man. She’s doesn’t need to sleep with a man to have or keep him. She understands that whatever she can’t get by way of her principles will never be her own. That you are sleeping with a guy does not mean he’s yours. If you had to sleep with him to keep him, he was never yours in the first place. In the absence of your personal standards, you end up trying many things and many people, but you never experience the love that is already within you. Allow that love within to write your standards and begin to live from them. That love will never lead you astray, never ever!
Why are you making excuses for him…..again?
I have come to observe that ladies often see the man as the prize. So once it looks like they have him – especially if he appears to be a good one – they want to do everything in their power to keep him. I understand that, but I don’t accept that and neither should you. You are the Prize. We should fight over you and want to do things to get and keep you. We should want to make sure you are ok. A man who loves and respects a woman will never want her in doubt when it comes her knowing of his feelings towards her. When we are crazy about a woman, we are no longer the reserved and non emotional creatures you think we are. We become a mess - drooling internally when we think of you. We would never want you to feel you are on shaky ground concerning your status with us. We will publicly profess and show you to the whole world. We will put up a picture with you in it as the our profile pic, tag you in all photos you appear in and most importantly make sure that our status box shows that we are in a relationship with you. Yup, that’s what we do when we love you - we say it out LOUD! And when we are out and
about with you, our professions are usually crystal clear: ‘Meet my girlfriend, Sandra’ or ‘Meet my fiance, Sandra.’ Not, ‘Meet Sandra’ who is Sandra??? When we love you, we want the world to know that we love you. But I get amazed when ladies see the writing on the wall and continually make excuses to justify a man’s blatant abuse towards them. What do I mean? Take for instance the introductions highlighted above; He introduces you as just ‘Sandra’: you know you don’t like it, but you make an excuse within yourself and say, ‘he’s a private kinda guy, he doesn’t like to publicly show stuff.’ Really? Ok, let me ask,
“Are you enrolled in midnight gymnastics with him?” In other words has he bent your body in ways you didn’t think possible? Well, there is only one thing worse than a guy sleeping with a woman in secret; and that is, a woman allowing that to happen.Before you allow a man do to you privately what can affect you publicly, he must first of all acknowledge you publicly as the
woman he respects and loves. If he can’t do that, you need to tell me why you are still sticking around. How can you allow a man to knock you up when you are just ‘Sandra’ to him? You know you deserve better, so stop the excuses. Instead of making excuses for him, take charge – not of him or the relationship, but of yourself. Never remain in an environment where your integrity is compromised. Remember, you are the prize and we should work hard to get and keep you. And after all our hard work, you still have a right to say NO.
Why are you looking for ‘something’ in a bag of ‘nothings?’
A few years ago, a friend who was engaged was getting ready for her wedding which was just a couple of months away at the time. She called me occasionally during the preparation process, but on this one phone call, things were pretty bad. She was mad, upset, disappointed and unhappy that she was marrying this guy. So I asked her why she was still going on with the
wedding if she felt the marriage wouldn’t work out. She said to me that she did not want the last four years of her life spent with him to go to waste. Hmmm! When she said this, I looked at my phone because I couldn’t look at her (she was in a different city) and in that instant – if I had a private jet – I would have flown to her city to give her a knock on her head - not a hard one, just a gentle knock - to help tilt her brain back to the center of her skull, because obviously it seemed
out of balance with what she had just said to me. Let’s think about this, You are willing to screw up the next 50 years of your life, create babies in a hostile environment with a man you despise thereby screwing up the next generation, raising kids that would need therapy for the rest of their lives based on the abuse they will experience in that home, all because you don’t want the last four years of your life - 1,2,3,4 - to mean nothing (I’m having a headache just rehashing the story).
So you are trying to create a love marriage from a four year crappy relationship. Needless to say, this lady was a young beautiful 28yr old lawyer. With good life habits she could easily live another healthy 50 years (Have you seen Barbara Walters lately? She’s 80). And here you are, willing to mortgage a future on four years with this jerk? She was desperately trying to make something out of nothing. That you’ve been in a long term relationship does not mean you should continually stay in it. Unfortunately for some ladies, it takes a while to see the light and muster up courage to get out of a bad situation. But when you see the light; RUN, GO, your life deserves it. If you don’t make that change, you’ll never know what’s out there? And when I say out there, I don’t mean what’s out there in another relationship; I mean what’s out there in you that you are yet to discover. Some of you ladies are afraid – afraid that you might not be married by a certain time. You begin the calculations, ‘Ok, I’m 28 now, if I break this up, how long will it take to find another guy and get married? Oooh! It may take another 4 years and I’ll be 32. No! I can’t be single at 30.” You are killing yourself with this kind of dialogue. Like she later said to me, she always saw herself married by 29. Needless to say, she was divorced by 29. They got
married alright, but their divorce was made final before a possible 1st wedding anniversary. Sometimes we allow fear to dictate what we should do. We will never get from fear what love has to give. Love is bold, confident and fearless. Why are you scared? Why are you letting fear keep you in a relationship that you know you don’t want? Why do you want to marry a guy who has already made you feel like trash? Why are you choosing to be with someone you are not crazy about? Ok, so you are more concerned about looking good and successful on the outside at the expense of how you truly feel on the inside. You are too special for that. Let people think what they think, you know what you know and that’s all that should matter. Sometimes, we don’t believe; we don’t believe in ourselves, so we settle and then try to make something out of nothing. You can’t change another human being, it’s impossible. You haven’t even changed some things about yourself; how then do you think it possible to change another?
You’ve gotta think before you have his baby!
Often times when I’m in conversation with one of my numerous lady friends, something always cracks me up. I know they been having sex for years in and out of relationships and that fact is not hidden between us. But on some occasions, when I ask them if they have been pregnant before, their voice takes on a new tone of ‘How dare you?’ And then there is a resounding NO,
like, ‘how could I get pregnant?’ Wait a minute! Am I missing something here? If you are having sex – sexual intercourse, you are potentially making a baby. You are filing an application. As soon as he ejaculates into you, the application is submitted and the outcome of that process is no longer left to you or him but to the Department of Conception. And if they approve it, you become pregnant whether you want it or not. Sex is not just about the pleasure derived, neither is it an antidote for loneliness. Sex is Responsibility; meaning you will have to respond to the outcome of that sexual encounter and sometimes it could be a lifetime of responses especially when a child is conceived. And when that child is born, you will forever have a symbol representing your union with your ex. Once a child is conceived, there is no moving on from that relationship. It begins the strongest bond known between a man and a woman. That man holds a special place in your heart regardless of how you feel about him today. You may have an abortion in trying to cut any future ties to this man, but may I have you know that the power of conception outweighs the power of birth. For something to be born, it has to be conceived. We are all on this earth first because of conception then birth. Without conception they will be no birth but without birth there can be conception. A strong bond is created when you allow a man’s sperm to start life within you. It is a major privilege to give to someone and not everyone should have that kind of access to you. If a man is horny and wants to be relieved, tell him to use his hand.
You are no object and certainly no substitute for a man’s hand. So if you don’t want to have his baby, don’t make his baby.
I know there’s Pressure, but why are you under it?
I have come to observe that whether she’s 21 or 29, she always feels she’s running out of time. One thing you must understand is that pressure is not real. You are real and when you give attention to or come under the dominance of something that is impotent, you give it potency – you give it power. That is why this thing we call ‘pressure’ has the effect it has. You give
it the effect. You are the effect. Sometimes we are driven by those voices of ignorance that may have come from people we love, so we try hard to get into a relationship and make it work. “Oh! This one has to work cos I’m almost 30.” Screw him and screw 30. You are more valuable to yourself and to the world than the timeline of your eggs or your age. Your world will not
come to an end if you are not married by 30; in fact, it may just be beginning!
A few years ago, a lady friend of mine, who was 21 at the time called me up to talk about her ‘man' troubles. During our conversation, I observed that she had always been in a sexual relationship since she was 15. She confessed to me that she didn’t want to be alone; actually she didn’t know how to be alone. You see, you do yourself a huge injustice when you spend your formative years interrupted. Sex interrupts. It stops your creative and intellectual development and gives strength to your emotional cravings which should still be asleep. Your formative years are years you spend forming your person and your identity in readiness for your service to the world. Unfortunately, ladies give that time and space to some guy – a guy who may not even be in your life past your 30th birthday.Have we as men failed you? Oh yes we have! As fathers some of us weren’t present in your young life. As uncles, instead of being fond of you, we fondled you. As friends we were more focused on the benefits instead of the sacrifice. We used you when
we should have added value. We took advantage instead giving the advantage. We failed you quite all right, but you don’t have to do to yourself what we did to you – You don’t have to fail yourself. You can’t afford to fail yourself. You are the door to humanity. Life has to go through you to enter this earth. Even God needed a woman to come back into the world.
There’s no need to dumb yourself down or compromise your true integrity. We need the true you. We can’t exist without you and
we will adjust to whatever standard you set for us – so why not make it high, why not make it YOU?
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
5 Mistakes Women Make........from a man's point of view!!!!
I had 17comments in 24hours after my last post,that's definitely a first,it has never happened on my blog before.i thank you all for your well wishes,i really thank you all.Please enjoy my next 3 series.It was culled (isn't that what i see in mags?) from facebook.Enjoy..........
Qmoney's word for today
Whatever u give a woman,she multiplies it. if u give her love,she'll give u a baby.if u give her a house,she'll give u a home.if u give her a smile,she'll give u her heart.she multiplies and enlarges whateva u av given her.So if u give her crap,she'l give u tonnes of shit.................
5 Mistakes Women Make - By Ekene Agabu(A MAN)
Before I begin or rather let you into what I have written, I must confess that I had completed this article months ago but was a bit apprehensive in publishing it. I didn’t want to come across as being judgmental and if after reading this you feel judged or put down as a woman, please excuse my unskilled delivery, for that is not my intent. And if you feel that I have crossed the line as man sharing these with you, do not hesitate to express your disdain for my impetus.
Having said that, I feel qualified to write this as a man because I stand as an unbiased observer and also one who has had the opportunity to take advantage of these mistakes. But I must confess, we as men have been @$#*%*$ . Where we should have given, we took; where we should have loved, we lusted and where we should have preserved, we devoured. As a Man, I must call myself to higher standards. Before I touch you, I must respect you like my mother, protect you like my sister and look out for your best interest like my baby – after all, that’s what I call you when I want you! We’ve failed to realize that the significance of our masculinity does not lie in how many girls we can dis-virgin but rather the honor we can bestow upon one. We fail to understand that the purpose of our strength and dominance is to defend and protect not to attack and destroy.
But the first mistake was not yours. You were born into a world that didn’t even give you the chance - the chance to be who you really are without any pressure or expectation. From day one you were unconsciously groomed from childhood to be an acceptable accessory to a man’s life. You were constantly made conscious of a false milestone that suggested your value was based upon a man finding you worthy to be his, instead of being made aware of who you are by virtue of your own unique existence. Your worth as a woman was reduced to two things; being a wife and your ability to bear a child – and in some cultures, you had to bear the right type of child. And if per chance you failed in one of these areas, you were nobody, no one – you were nothing.
Unfortunately, along the way, you may have made some mistakes in trying to fulfill this false notion of who you are supposed to be. Bad relationship after bad relationship continually emphasized the lie that you were nothing without a man. Not only do you sit there as one with mental wounds from childhood, but also with hurts and wounds that are self inflicted as you sincerely tried to fulfill the so called destiny of the woman – being someone’s woman.
As I share this with you, I do not come as one who claims to understand your plight, but rather I stand as one who has heard you. From my mother to my aunts to my cousins and my friends, I have heard you and will continue to listen whenever you speak.
That being said, I do not believe we are responsible for the things that are done or said to us, but I do know that we are responsible for allowing those things continue in us. It’s in this light that I share with you the five common mistakes women make in relationships.
*******To be continued
Qmoney's word for today
Whatever u give a woman,she multiplies it. if u give her love,she'll give u a baby.if u give her a house,she'll give u a home.if u give her a smile,she'll give u her heart.she multiplies and enlarges whateva u av given her.So if u give her crap,she'l give u tonnes of shit.................
5 Mistakes Women Make - By Ekene Agabu(A MAN)
Before I begin or rather let you into what I have written, I must confess that I had completed this article months ago but was a bit apprehensive in publishing it. I didn’t want to come across as being judgmental and if after reading this you feel judged or put down as a woman, please excuse my unskilled delivery, for that is not my intent. And if you feel that I have crossed the line as man sharing these with you, do not hesitate to express your disdain for my impetus.
Having said that, I feel qualified to write this as a man because I stand as an unbiased observer and also one who has had the opportunity to take advantage of these mistakes. But I must confess, we as men have been @$#*%*$ . Where we should have given, we took; where we should have loved, we lusted and where we should have preserved, we devoured. As a Man, I must call myself to higher standards. Before I touch you, I must respect you like my mother, protect you like my sister and look out for your best interest like my baby – after all, that’s what I call you when I want you! We’ve failed to realize that the significance of our masculinity does not lie in how many girls we can dis-virgin but rather the honor we can bestow upon one. We fail to understand that the purpose of our strength and dominance is to defend and protect not to attack and destroy.
But the first mistake was not yours. You were born into a world that didn’t even give you the chance - the chance to be who you really are without any pressure or expectation. From day one you were unconsciously groomed from childhood to be an acceptable accessory to a man’s life. You were constantly made conscious of a false milestone that suggested your value was based upon a man finding you worthy to be his, instead of being made aware of who you are by virtue of your own unique existence. Your worth as a woman was reduced to two things; being a wife and your ability to bear a child – and in some cultures, you had to bear the right type of child. And if per chance you failed in one of these areas, you were nobody, no one – you were nothing.
Unfortunately, along the way, you may have made some mistakes in trying to fulfill this false notion of who you are supposed to be. Bad relationship after bad relationship continually emphasized the lie that you were nothing without a man. Not only do you sit there as one with mental wounds from childhood, but also with hurts and wounds that are self inflicted as you sincerely tried to fulfill the so called destiny of the woman – being someone’s woman.
As I share this with you, I do not come as one who claims to understand your plight, but rather I stand as one who has heard you. From my mother to my aunts to my cousins and my friends, I have heard you and will continue to listen whenever you speak.
That being said, I do not believe we are responsible for the things that are done or said to us, but I do know that we are responsible for allowing those things continue in us. It’s in this light that I share with you the five common mistakes women make in relationships.
*******To be continued
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Iyawo.......Introduction gist!!!
Hello people,thank you so much for your comments,i appreciate the suggestions,kindly go back and read the replies.we shall be planning this wedding together God willing
Before i totally forget the details as much as possible,my introduction went well.
I was nervous 2days before but by a day before,activities had taken over my nervousness
Beau was supposed to buy fruits so the plan was for him to take the Friday off to get ready and lo and behold,i called at 10a.m and he was at work,he had soooooooooooo much to do and there was no way i could help cos i had a lot to do myself,then at a point my mum called me and said she wanted me home early cos we were suppose to have a meeting bla bla bla,she wanted me to see the engagement list that would be given to the, be calm at home and confirm the date we have both chosen for the wedding so they can respond adequately, this meant i had to travel earlier than planned.I called and we argued over the fact that he was overstressed then i wanted to confirm the 10th of October verbally not just by mutual understanding and he snapped at me, argument entered,it's not may fault u always wait for last minute.........bla bla bla........i didn't call him again and by the time i got home,he was no longer reachable on phone,i didn't bother too much but after 2hours,he still couldn't be reached then i panicked,then like 3hours later,his brother called me that he has been trying to call him so they can plan their movements for Saturday and he couldn't be reached,next his dad called me and i told him i didn't know where he was,i told my mum and she just started praying then me i started crying.this was like 10pm at night oh,like 15mins later,i called his brother, i had been calling every 20mins and he told me he was on another phone talking to their dad,i was so upset,i just went to sleep,i woke up and saw 10missed calls and plenty sorry messages on my phone.i was totally not mad at him anymore,i really didn't want us to on not talking terms so i called in the morning,he was fine,very tired,told him that was the price for last minute,then my aunts and uncles started trooping in,my dad said he was telling no one but we saw like 10 of his friends from waaaaaaay back,a trailer fell on the express so there was traffic on the road + MFM & redeem people that were held back cos of the same trailer thingy as well,they were suppose to get to ours at 10a.m,by 9,his dad was already agitating....hurrying him up...they didn't want to be late but trust my last minute man,i honestly never bothered to ask what exactly delayed them but they didn't get to ours until like 12:30 at which time ,my alaga(mediator) was already talking about fining them.............lol
Now cos they were late,our own people had been at ours since like 10 so we had to serve food(totally unplanned for)i was sleeping at this time cos my mum told me not to go out,she didn't want anyone seeing the bride and i was too bored sitting in the room so i slept so they started serving food,like 20people or so ate before the event started.
Before i forget,i went to the mediator and told her "no money collection" for the umpteenth time and as she was trying to disagree with me,my dad walked in on us and instructed her to do whatever i wanted as d day belongs to me
They came,no money collection at the gate,no form of extortion whatsoever and then the event started,they introduced my parents and S-U-R-P-R-I-S-E.................................Beau's dad started spraying my parents money,thought we didn't want any form of money collection abi??beau looked at my mum and she looked at him right back cos he could read through her mind(tot u and ur wife didn't want money bla bla bla??)
After that,there was d spraying galore,i heard they intro themselves then beau came in,prostrated 6times or something funny,his dad had to go all down to prostrate to my father as well,i didn't like that part at all at all cos his dad is 75 and my dad is just 61,they should make just d bobo do it joooo,by the time they called me out,they sprayed me again,his dad is really very fond of me,maybe cos d guy is always making me do all his errands in this Lagos,i greeted everyone,my mum and dad prayed for me and then my step mums and i was making money all the way,for everyone that intro themselves,they had to drop and guess what happened to the ALL the money??the alaga carried it away
(Xcept the one my sister picked wen they were spraying me),my mum says that's d tradition,they told him to carry me then asked "Wetin u carry"??his answer "my wife"..kilonbge???igbeyawo.................
everyone intro themselves,we prayed some more............then there was the closing prayer!!
Time to serve came and we had to serve our in-laws first so after they were served,the plates finished,we had planned for 70 guests(Expecting 40) but there were like 100 guests then u know some people had eaten upstairs before,those ones ate again downstairs,thank God there was swallow cos left for the rice,it was not enough.
Then i think all my mum's siblings didn't eat,they had to go and make semo again for them, the caterer didn't just have foresight at all at all and it was suppose to be a test for her,she definitely can't handle the wedding,(the plates finished too). maybe just engagement.then thankfully,i had small chops(Though he was mega LATE) so that kinda sufficed again for the youths,they all liked it or maybe they were pretending cos i have DELETED his number from my phone,it was crap,the Chapman tasted like limca, goldspot and colouring as far as am concerned but everyone loved it.i paid for 50cups and my mum was saying i should have made 70.lol
All in all,guess we had a good day,beau with his big mouth was now asking my mum if she has now given him license to give her grand-kids...........see question and my mum had d effrontery to say Yes,i told him to better pay Bride price first.........hehehehe
All in all sha, i had a good day, i was calm and pretty too
I can now officially be called bride to be!!!!Thank God for everything, i still need your prayers oh,that sister i talked about here didn't show up or call (till now) for reasons best known to her.i really am not bothered by it,i am just giving u people as part of the gist
Enjoy the cool weather y'all
Before i totally forget the details as much as possible,my introduction went well.
I was nervous 2days before but by a day before,activities had taken over my nervousness
Beau was supposed to buy fruits so the plan was for him to take the Friday off to get ready and lo and behold,i called at 10a.m and he was at work,he had soooooooooooo much to do and there was no way i could help cos i had a lot to do myself,then at a point my mum called me and said she wanted me home early cos we were suppose to have a meeting bla bla bla,she wanted me to see the engagement list that would be given to the, be calm at home and confirm the date we have both chosen for the wedding so they can respond adequately, this meant i had to travel earlier than planned.I called and we argued over the fact that he was overstressed then i wanted to confirm the 10th of October verbally not just by mutual understanding and he snapped at me, argument entered,it's not may fault u always wait for last minute.........bla bla bla........i didn't call him again and by the time i got home,he was no longer reachable on phone,i didn't bother too much but after 2hours,he still couldn't be reached then i panicked,then like 3hours later,his brother called me that he has been trying to call him so they can plan their movements for Saturday and he couldn't be reached,next his dad called me and i told him i didn't know where he was,i told my mum and she just started praying then me i started crying.this was like 10pm at night oh,like 15mins later,i called his brother, i had been calling every 20mins and he told me he was on another phone talking to their dad,i was so upset,i just went to sleep,i woke up and saw 10missed calls and plenty sorry messages on my phone.i was totally not mad at him anymore,i really didn't want us to on not talking terms so i called in the morning,he was fine,very tired,told him that was the price for last minute,then my aunts and uncles started trooping in,my dad said he was telling no one but we saw like 10 of his friends from waaaaaaay back,a trailer fell on the express so there was traffic on the road + MFM & redeem people that were held back cos of the same trailer thingy as well,they were suppose to get to ours at 10a.m,by 9,his dad was already agitating....hurrying him up...they didn't want to be late but trust my last minute man,i honestly never bothered to ask what exactly delayed them but they didn't get to ours until like 12:30 at which time ,my alaga(mediator) was already talking about fining them.............lol
Now cos they were late,our own people had been at ours since like 10 so we had to serve food(totally unplanned for)i was sleeping at this time cos my mum told me not to go out,she didn't want anyone seeing the bride and i was too bored sitting in the room so i slept so they started serving food,like 20people or so ate before the event started.
Before i forget,i went to the mediator and told her "no money collection" for the umpteenth time and as she was trying to disagree with me,my dad walked in on us and instructed her to do whatever i wanted as d day belongs to me
They came,no money collection at the gate,no form of extortion whatsoever and then the event started,they introduced my parents and S-U-R-P-R-I-S-E.................................Beau's dad started spraying my parents money,thought we didn't want any form of money collection abi??beau looked at my mum and she looked at him right back cos he could read through her mind(tot u and ur wife didn't want money bla bla bla??)
After that,there was d spraying galore,i heard they intro themselves then beau came in,prostrated 6times or something funny,his dad had to go all down to prostrate to my father as well,i didn't like that part at all at all cos his dad is 75 and my dad is just 61,they should make just d bobo do it joooo,by the time they called me out,they sprayed me again,his dad is really very fond of me,maybe cos d guy is always making me do all his errands in this Lagos,i greeted everyone,my mum and dad prayed for me and then my step mums and i was making money all the way,for everyone that intro themselves,they had to drop and guess what happened to the ALL the money??the alaga carried it away
(Xcept the one my sister picked wen they were spraying me),my mum says that's d tradition,they told him to carry me then asked "Wetin u carry"??his answer "my wife"..kilonbge???igbeyawo.................
everyone intro themselves,we prayed some more............then there was the closing prayer!!
Time to serve came and we had to serve our in-laws first so after they were served,the plates finished,we had planned for 70 guests(Expecting 40) but there were like 100 guests then u know some people had eaten upstairs before,those ones ate again downstairs,thank God there was swallow cos left for the rice,it was not enough.
Then i think all my mum's siblings didn't eat,they had to go and make semo again for them, the caterer didn't just have foresight at all at all and it was suppose to be a test for her,she definitely can't handle the wedding,(the plates finished too). maybe just engagement.then thankfully,i had small chops(Though he was mega LATE) so that kinda sufficed again for the youths,they all liked it or maybe they were pretending cos i have DELETED his number from my phone,it was crap,the Chapman tasted like limca, goldspot and colouring as far as am concerned but everyone loved it.i paid for 50cups and my mum was saying i should have made 70.lol
All in all,guess we had a good day,beau with his big mouth was now asking my mum if she has now given him license to give her grand-kids...........see question and my mum had d effrontery to say Yes,i told him to better pay Bride price first.........hehehehe
All in all sha, i had a good day, i was calm and pretty too
I can now officially be called bride to be!!!!Thank God for everything, i still need your prayers oh,that sister i talked about here didn't show up or call (till now) for reasons best known to her.i really am not bothered by it,i am just giving u people as part of the gist
Enjoy the cool weather y'all
Monday, June 1, 2009
Lets plan!!!!!!!
Thanks a lot for your comments on my other post,i felt like i was yarning child's and to grow up asap!!!
So its my introduction this weekend and i think my mother's excitement pressure (yup,her excitement was putting me under duress,....lol) has kinda put me in excited mode (smaaaaaaaaaaaall) though we've had lots of disagreements.i even threatened her i am not coming before the event again,i will ride with my in - laws (to be) that are coming cos her own is just too much.i think she mellowed when i said that one, now she's going to get and alaga (mediator) and they are coming with drums!!!I just really pray they don't get me all frowning and stuff cos i tend to do that easily, even if i dont say a word,it doesnt mean i have changed my mind. she now set me up with my dad,once dad says that's his final decision,it can't be questioned!!
I have a feeling they will ask for money at the entrance or those "Taxing" during engagement things and i think that's really EMBARRASSING, it will make us look like we are hungry or something.hehehehehe
I am all good sha but i have always had this nagging feeling or is it premonition that i and beau wont be talking on our wedding day as per he'd have done something to offend me and we'll just be forming all the smiles and what have you,we've hardly argued this month except of course when i briefed him of my mum's aso ebi and caterer and things and he told me i was just
pretending i didn't like all the hullabaloo,i am happy with it,its my thing cos i actually like attending parties......owambe and what have you.i feel weird cos i am actually keeping a bit of a distance,been over nice and he sent me a txt saying "if i am this apprehensive over just intro,i shouldn't bail out on him on the wedding day oh"...that actually made me laugh!!Little do u know,i am not apprehensive over nada,i don't even think i will be over my wedding,it feels due to me!!u don't date someone for 5years and expect the person to still be anxious and overjoyed or maybe its just me sha.........
On a lighter note,I have chosen my colours and just incase you havn't noticed,that's what i have edited my blog to look like now,I'd like derivatives of green for lace(i.e mint green or grass gress or baby green or royal green or lemon green).....whatever and orange for gele(sky orange,peach...) or whatever i end up calling it but its going to be shades of green and orange.
Beau's sister called me to just ask how i am and ask what colours i want to choose so we(the both of us) can choose a colour that will blend or even the same colour for them.i told her i will come and see her to discuss.I was thinking of telling them to use a shade of green gele or maybe gold gele,what do u people think?????COlours of the day will be mint green,orange and gold..............hehehehe
I want to do gele and lace or print for my friends,what do u guys really think?Lace or Print(i.e ankara or woodin or java or hollywoond...bla bla) My mum already agreed to do orange aso oke for her friends,i went to the market over the weekend and didnt really see anything i like.a friend suggested i choose the print and have them make it for me,it will take 6weeks!!All i sha know is that i want an orange and green or a shades of green wedding!!
Tobenna, am i still parayarning??? LOL
Have a good week y'all and remember to pray for me.Thanks and happy new month
So its my introduction this weekend and i think my mother's excitement pressure (yup,her excitement was putting me under duress,....lol) has kinda put me in excited mode (smaaaaaaaaaaaall) though we've had lots of disagreements.i even threatened her i am not coming before the event again,i will ride with my in - laws (to be) that are coming cos her own is just too much.i think she mellowed when i said that one, now she's going to get and alaga (mediator) and they are coming with drums!!!I just really pray they don't get me all frowning and stuff cos i tend to do that easily, even if i dont say a word,it doesnt mean i have changed my mind. she now set me up with my dad,once dad says that's his final decision,it can't be questioned!!
I have a feeling they will ask for money at the entrance or those "Taxing" during engagement things and i think that's really EMBARRASSING, it will make us look like we are hungry or something.hehehehehe
I am all good sha but i have always had this nagging feeling or is it premonition that i and beau wont be talking on our wedding day as per he'd have done something to offend me and we'll just be forming all the smiles and what have you,we've hardly argued this month except of course when i briefed him of my mum's aso ebi and caterer and things and he told me i was just
pretending i didn't like all the hullabaloo,i am happy with it,its my thing cos i actually like attending parties......owambe and what have you.i feel weird cos i am actually keeping a bit of a distance,been over nice and he sent me a txt saying "if i am this apprehensive over just intro,i shouldn't bail out on him on the wedding day oh"...that actually made me laugh!!Little do u know,i am not apprehensive over nada,i don't even think i will be over my wedding,it feels due to me!!u don't date someone for 5years and expect the person to still be anxious and overjoyed or maybe its just me sha.........
On a lighter note,I have chosen my colours and just incase you havn't noticed,that's what i have edited my blog to look like now,I'd like derivatives of green for lace(i.e mint green or grass gress or baby green or royal green or lemon green).....whatever and orange for gele(sky orange,peach...) or whatever i end up calling it but its going to be shades of green and orange.
Beau's sister called me to just ask how i am and ask what colours i want to choose so we(the both of us) can choose a colour that will blend or even the same colour for them.i told her i will come and see her to discuss.I was thinking of telling them to use a shade of green gele or maybe gold gele,what do u people think?????COlours of the day will be mint green,orange and gold..............hehehehe
I want to do gele and lace or print for my friends,what do u guys really think?Lace or Print(i.e ankara or woodin or java or hollywoond...bla bla) My mum already agreed to do orange aso oke for her friends,i went to the market over the weekend and didnt really see anything i like.a friend suggested i choose the print and have them make it for me,it will take 6weeks!!All i sha know is that i want an orange and green or a shades of green wedding!!
Tobenna, am i still parayarning??? LOL
Have a good week y'all and remember to pray for me.Thanks and happy new month
Monday, May 25, 2009
Fast catalyst, Patience,The Male Brain
I have promised myself i will not be a venter in my life anymore but this just takes the lead.
I should do one of this memes one day that tell you a lil bit about me.Here are 2things relevant to this gist, i come from a polygamous family and my daddy has quite a temper.......i think i got it from him self but thank God for God,i don cool down a lot,if not!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A few years back,my sister wanted to get married but as at the time she came forward to my dad, she was already pregnant,heavily pregnant for that matter so my dad told her she had to have her baby first as he didn't have money for this rush rush matter, she did just the introduction,did registry, had her baby,carnival like naming ceremony and she didn't push for d wedding again.
Fast forward to now,i called everyone last weekend(I even told my blogfamily b4 them,see how much i love una?) to inform them officially of my intro oh.Everyone congratulated me and we just generally gisted.thing is we are not all that close so they even chopped my credit cos i had to gist with them a bit,i called this particular sis and she was so very cold,she complained daddy hadn't called her to tell her,why am i d one calling her?even my mum didn't deem it fit to call her(as she's high and mighty),no one had told her and i said,i don't have those details but maybe daddy will call her later.
Apparently,daddy had told her sisters and brother but i think she dint pick her phone or bla bla bla but it was one of her "full" sisters that called me and told me to call everyone individually so they wont biff me that i was too proud to call even if daddy had called(See drama),sister sha called daddy and RAKED,told daddy he is very wicked,how can he do a wedding for me after he said he dint have money for her????BEAT DAT?????I have never ever in my life heard of such evil considering we didn't really have polygamous problems while we were growing up,my mum didn't give me the gist immediately cos she thought i will call her and rake,she just told me and i am so very shocked right now.
I promptly sent a txt to my elder bro (half) that "what is this i am hearing again",he sha called their mum and the mum called me and was begging me,i should pretend i dint hear it,she is shocked that kinda thing came from her,all she said isn't a representation of her side of the family,it was all thought about by her,its not as if i am pregnant so our situation isn't similar
My blogpeople,enemy plenty pass ota oh(ota is yoruba word for enemy as well),who say make i no fast??i have been fasting once weekly but i want to try and make it 2ice weekly now,i was praying and fasting against external enemies before but now i have to include the ones that are right within!!!I know this is really petty but i promptly her number from my phone cos i dont want to have anything to do with her again abeg.shuo, wetin be my own?i told my own siblings(full) and they told me to restore the number so i will know not to pick her calls.lol
That is the story of my life ooh.God help me and help us all
Solomonsydelle,u were offering FFF prayers from your mum,please tell her to pray with me as well oh,no amount of prayer is too small or too much.thanks
Infact, now more than ever before,i don't want a wedding website,am sure there are some other evil people that wont even open their mouth to tell me, shebi i should be grateful God exposed her thoughts!!
On a lighter note, See me see trouble,my nonsense brother came from unilag during the day while i was at work,(i actually asked him to come to my house cos the plumber wanted to do some things in the house) packed all my newly made jollof rice and 6pieces of turkey(Seriously that is a lot seeing i buy just one kilo at a time), my mum happened to call me as i was getting home and already salivating over dinner.i realized and i was just so angry,he didn't even wash d pot after taking the food.my mum was now consoling me that i should bone jare, what if it was husband's brother??am like....when he isn't on drugs,its only my brother that can have that kind of liver oh.My people, that's how she launched into plenty preaching of patience!!I cant talk to my husband's bro the way i talk to my own siblings,in my mind i was thinking "for what now",i was thinking more on the likes of they will enjoy the privileges like my own brother(e.g "blackmailing" money out of me even wen i don't have it) as well and will be sent on errands like my own brother too!!we learn daily sha
Have a nice week y'all and let me know what you think about the male brain.lol
Monday, May 18, 2009
Fight with momma,the female brain
My mum has been taking this intro a bit to far from my liking, granted i am her first child but she is taking the matter too too seriously.not like no one has been married before in my family but they were not her kids so she didn't really have much say.
The first fight started when she said she was telling her siblings,she's got 6 of them(same parents) and am like WTH???it should just be something small,i want just my own siblings since he is coming with just his own siblings,she won the fight over that one,it ended then she went ahead to tell me she was calling caterer,another WTH? why cant we(me and my cousins) make d food??we are not expecting the whole of Nigeria now,she said she didn't want me or anyone stressed besides,she knows me already,i am NOT taking any leave from work and i will travel a day before(its an hour drive from Lagos),i left her then she came up with another one,they should all tie the pink gele (headtie) we used for my cousins wedding last year,at that point i was losing it, we argued and argued, she told me they already had the gele at home so its not a biggie,as for people that don't have,any pink gele will do,she's not asking anyone to buy a new gele and she is not selling,that one ended then she came up with i and beau wearing the same thing,cos of ALL this her drama,i told her that we aren't.
Asides the fact that am not an anko fan,i just thought this thing was getting out of hand and she fought me tooth and nail over that one but sorry my baby is on my side so in her own best interest,don't dabble into our matter.that one ended.
Apparently she was saying that cos she made new aso oke for she and my dad and she wanted to make for us and we have vehemently refused,so what does that say to you??she made new aso oke abi???
I snapped when my aunt,her step sister that my mum says her mum is a witch called me to tell me congrats that my mum just called her.
She was freaking talking about souvenirs and my threat of not dropping 1kobo didn't even faze her so I called her and went on and on,like mummy,what the heck is going on now???wait for the wedding to spend this much on your phone card,food,clothes and what have you??she sha halla'd and i halla'd my own back, she ended up telling me if i know i don't want to introduction,i should forget about it and i told her after this intro,i am not doing anything again cos of her problems,i am going to registry and forgetting about it or if she wants to make it this big,there is no need for it,we will do everything, intro+engagement on the same day.
she sha dropped the phone and were boning each other.next thing i knew she sent me a txt that she was coming to Lagos,this woman doesn't give up,does she??me i was sha very upset cos me and my dad don't understand what she's on and on about abeg!!She has some jobless friends that keep telling her they cant wait to celebrate something with her as she has been there for them,i have warned her though that i don't want to see them at my introduction.
I only want people that have my surname or were nee my surname and people that were nee her surname...C'fini!!!
We have sha resolved the fight oh cos guess am not a troublesome child plus there's really no point now abi?
meanwhile,I am now convinced on the fasting and praying matter oh,will give details in my next post,just that i a slim person and i tend to look skinny and sick when i lose weight.we'll figure out a way eventually
PS:What do u think about the pic?
have a nice week y'all!!!
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